Patient
Courageous
Your Survive Protector
Nonjudgmental
Supportive
Trustworthy
Empathetic
If you have decided to look for a protector you are showing signs of being a successful survivor! So think about your protector as someone who's protecting your innate and courageous ability to survive the circumstances that challenge you.
Some Qualities to Look For
Empathetic
A protector deeply understands the survivor’s pain, courage and need to regain control and validates their feelings without judgment.
“They create a safe space where survivors feel heard and valued.”
Patient
Trauma healing takes time, and a protector respects the survivor’s pace and process.
“Their presence is steady, never rushed, offering consistent reassurance.”
Supportive
They provide encouragement, resources, or assistance without being overbearing.
“They stand beside survivors, offering strength without overshadowing their independence.”
Clear and Solid Boundaries
A good protector respects the survivor’s autonomy and personal boundaries.
“They protect by empowering survivors to make choices and regain control over their lives.”
Nonjudgmental
They contribute to your relationship with unconditional positive regard.
“They accept survivors fully, honoring their experiences and individuality.”
Trustworthy
Survivors can rely on the protector’s consistency and reliability.
“They are a calm and stable presence, someone to count on in moments of fear, confusion and challenge.”
Your Protector Could Be:
A long term friend who offers a listening ear and an open heart.
A family member who provides unconditional love.
An elder, who has also been a survivor and understands your process and courage.
A therapist or counselor guiding the survivor through healing.
An advocate fighting for your justice or your access to resources.